Asexuality: Understanding Identity, Desire, and Relationships in Modern Sex Culture

When we talk about asexuality, a sexual orientation characterized by lack of sexual attraction to others. Also known as zero libido, it isn’t a phase, a disorder, or something to fix—it’s a valid way of experiencing the world. People who are asexual still feel love, form deep bonds, and sometimes crave romance, even if sex isn’t part of the picture. Yet most conversations about sex, dating, and intimacy still assume everyone wants it—or should want it. That’s where things get messy.

Here’s the thing: romantic attraction, the desire to form emotionally intimate relationships doesn’t always match up with sexual attraction. Someone can be asexual and still be aromantic, biromantic, or panromantic. They might want a partner to hold hands with, cook dinner with, or grow old with—but not have sex. And that’s okay. In Paris, London, and beyond, more people are starting to talk about this quietly, honestly. You’ll find stories in our posts about how French schools are teaching sexual diversity, how media represents LGBTQ+ identities, and how dating apps are slowly adapting to include asexual people—not as an afterthought, but as a real part of the spectrum.

Let’s clear up another myth: asexuality isn’t about being broken, shy, or traumatized. It’s not the same as celibacy, which is a choice. Asexuality is who you are. Some asexual people enjoy sex for reasons like pleasing a partner, curiosity, or physical pleasure—but they don’t feel drawn to it the way others do. Others avoid it completely. There’s no one-size-fits-all. And that’s why the posts here matter. From discussions on libido, the biological drive for sexual activity in aging Parisians to how fetish culture in France plays out in nightlife, these stories all touch the edges of what we assume about desire. You’ll see how people navigate relationships when one partner is asexual and the other isn’t. You’ll find advice on talking to doctors, dating apps that let you mark your orientation, and how to explain this to family without feeling like you’re explaining a defect.

There’s no magic formula for being asexual. It’s not about numbers or labels—it’s about knowing yourself and having space to exist without apology. The posts below don’t try to fix, explain, or justify asexuality. They simply show it: in quiet moments, in bold conversations, in the spaces between what society says you should want and what you actually feel. Whether you’re exploring your own identity or trying to understand someone else, this collection gives you real, unfiltered glimpses into lives that don’t fit the script. No fluff. No assumptions. Just truth.